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Sep. 5th, 2010


jeweltyler

How about loving yourself today!

  
 
By          
Jewel Tyler

When I first think about loving myself, I ponder the thought of why I was created in the first place?. Am I truly fulfilling my purpose ?

I am not referring to "loving thyself" in a manner or degree to the point of being a selfish or conceited individual. I am only speaking of a personal intimate introspection of self.  In dealing with the reality of self, I also questioned why was I created in the first place?  Consider this, it took one sperm cell of thousands that stood against all odds in the very beginning of the creation of your life. Did you know that a woman's egg gives an enzyme that kills sperm cells? So looking at my existence from that perspective, it is a miracle that I am even here in the first place. Now that I have realized the miracle of my existence, I pondered the thought of why am I here? What is my purpose, why was I created in the first place? I was put here for a reason; I have a purpose and a reason for existing.  Is it to be a doctor, a minister, an artist or a parent? I know whatever reason you are I were created, we were not created to hate or despise ourselves. To beat up on self or allow others to do so is just simply unacceptable. I know I am special no matter what another individual thinks, may say or feel about me.

There are people that are being physically and or mentally abused, but that should not dictate the tearing down of the strongholds of loving yourself. When you are in that type of situation you may think that other people have no idea of what you are going through. On the other hand, the sad thing is that there are people that do know what you are experiencing and offer no assistance, not even words of encouragement . Through all of the hurt, pain, physical and mental abuse I have had to endure in this walk of life; I have come to realize, no one, and I mean no one is going to love me like God can. I am not going to allow anyone to steal or attempt to disrupt my joy and inner peace. The physical abuse “Thank God”; did not kill me, my wounds healed over time and I had sense enough to know “you don't love me or care for me if you abuse me in any capacity. People that physically or mentally abuse others, cannot possibly fix their mouths to say - "I love you". Love is not about hurt or pain, even though we endure pain emotionally and sometimes physically when we love someone.

I made up my mind, I was going to fall all the way in love with self. In loving me, anyone outside of my personal circle that is the opposite of what love represents for me; I will not entertain! The inner peace I am developing within me is not going to be compromised. I may be stressed today; but there is always tomorrow I can work even harder at accepting the peace and love of God.  When I look in the mirror I am pleased with what I see and how I have grown to love unconditionally. For today, I will work on smiling instead of frowning or crying because of unhappiness or past emotional pain I have endured;. Just seeing the beauty of a butterfly or hearing a bird sing brings joy to my heart, it’s the little things in life that bring peace.

I am thankful for who I am and because I exist.  In spite of whatever my past has been I always have today and possibly tomorrow to enjoy a better day in finding another way to love my friends and family.

Now how about you? 

Let’s make this an open discussion; but be honest take a moment to reflect before answering the commentary questions below.

  • What healthy positive thoughts have you contemplated today?  (Please share your opinion in the comments area)
  • Have you told someone near and dear to you today that you love them and really mean it?  (Please share your opinion in the comments area)

Thinking positive and healthy thoughts will always outweigh entertaining negative thoughts.  Entertaining negative thoughts to a point it becomes the overwhelming dominant force of your mind talk can result in a degeneration of self; and the love that you could possibly express to everyone around you.  Let’s see;

  • Low self esteem -  can it equal a very difficult time with sharing or expressing the most healthy way of thinking of self and loving others? (Please share your opinion in the comments area)
  • ______________ - surrounding yourself with negative people and your thoughts are negative  (fill in the blank)
  •  Entertaining negativity over a prolonged period of time can result in ____________, ____________ and __________. (fill in the blank)

With this sort of continued behavior of ignoring what really matters to you, eventually will result in an unhealthy you!  Not only will you be affected, but this sort of behavior and thought pattern will affect others around you.; your spouse or significant other, children or family.

The bible states that “God is LOVE” and in order for God’s presence to dwell within you love must reside.

Have you truly started or contemplated on more than one occasion the elimination of negativity and negative people in your life?(Please share your opinion in the comments area)

Try this at least an hour a day, over time increase the amount of time.

·         Spend some quite time alone, it works even better if you were in an aromatherapy bath

o   A good recipe – one of my favorites

-  (use pure essential oils:  9 to 10 drops Lavender; 8 drops of Tangerine

-  1 cup of Dead Sea Salts -  This recipe is good for relaxation

For the full experience shut down from the grid of life  - no cell phones,  TV, work, children etc.).  Take some time to simply just LOVE on YOU for a change! 

 

Aug. 29th, 2010


jeweltyler

Love Thyself

When I first think about loving myself, I ponder the thought of why I was created in the first place. Now don't get me wrong, I am not referring to "loving thyself" in a manner or degree to the point of being a conceited person. But in dealing with the reality of self, I question why I was created in the first place; it took one sperm cell of thousands that stood against all odds in the very beginning. Did you know that a woman's egg gives off some sort of enzyme that kills off sperm cells? So looking at my existence from that perspective, it is a miracle that I am even here in the first place.

 

So, now I realize the miracle of my existence, next I ponder on the thought of why am I here? What is my purpose, why was I created in the first place? I was put here for a reason; I have a purpose or a reason for being. Is it to be a doctor, a minister, an artist or a singer? I know what ever reason you or I were created, we were not created to hate or despise ourselves. To down you or allow others to do so is just simply out of the question. I am special no matter what someone else thinks or says about me.

 

Some people have been physically or mentally abused in some capacity, but that should not constitute the tearing down of the strongholds of loving yourself. I know this may sound crazy and you may say, you have no idea what I have been through. You would be surprised. Through all of the hurt, pain, physical and mental abuse I have had to endure in this walk of life. I have come to realize, no one, and I mean no one is going to love me like God can. No one is going to ever steal or attempt to steal my joy and inner peace. You can punch me in the face and as long as you don't kill me, my wounds will heal over time. But after that punch in the face or physical abuse has occurred, I have sense enough to know; you don't love me or care for me. People that physically or mentally abuse others, cannot possibly fix their mouths to say - "I love you". Love is not about hurt or pain, even though we endure pain emotionally and sometimes physically when we love someone.

 

For 2010, I have made up my mind. That I am going to fall all the way in love with me, and in loving me, anyone outside of me that means the opposite of what love represents for me; I will not entertain. That inner peace that I am developing within me is not going to be compromised. I may be overweight today, but there is always that tomorrow that I can work even harder at losing that weight so, when I look in the mirror I am pleased with what I see. Not what someone else thinks or shares their opinion of what I should look like. For today, I will work on smiling instead of frowning or crying because of unhappiness or past emotional pain I have endured, just seeing the beauty of a butterfly or hearing a bird sing brings joy to my heart.

 

I am thankful for who I am and because I exist and in spite of whatever my past has been; I always have today and possibly tomorrow to enjoy a better day and in finding another way to love myself.


jeweltyler

Healthy Thinking


 

Have you ever hard “Life and Death is in the power of the tongue?”  this can be translated as “you can give life to a thought once you speak it.”

 

For instance you think in your mind, “around this time of the year it never fails, I get a cold.”  Then you speak it, have you ever noticed not long after that a cold surfaces in your body.  Be very careful about what you think and especially what you say.

 

Thinking positive and healthy thoughts will always out weigh entertaining negative thoughts.  Negative thoughts  and especially maintaining a negative outlook as well as surrounding yourself and entertaining negative people will never equal positive results.  Entertaining negativity over a prolonged period of time can result in anxiety, depression and stress. Which then results in an unhealthy you!  Not only will you be affected, but this sort of behavior and thought pattern will affect others around you.  Like your spouse or significant other, children or co-workers.

 

Some people that suffer with a negative view of themselves (low-elf-esteem) have a very difficult time with sharing or expressing the most healthy way of thinking and sharing love.  The bible sates that God is love and in order for god’s presence to dwell within you love must reside.

 

What healthy positive thoughts have you contemplated today?  Have you told someone near and dear to you today that you love them?  Have you truly started or contemplated on more than one occasion the elimination of negativity and negative people in your life?

 

Sometimes you may just simply need to spend some quite time alone in a bath (with essential oils and salts for relaxation or stress) or simply shut down from this grid of life we have created for ourselves (cell phones, emails, internet, TV, movies, work, children etc.).  Whatever the choice, take some time to simply just LOVE on YOU for a change!